Parents can make a child do what they want them to do. That's the easy part. The more difficult part for the parent is getting the child to think the way the parent wants them to think.
Most parents are satisfied when they have made the child do what they want them to do, such as doing their homework. attending church services and possibley Bible classes and forget that they, the parents, are the example for the child to think the way the parent wants them to think and that goes far beyond "telling" and "attending".
When a child rebels when they are 15 or 16 or so and the parents are shocked, the parents say, "I don't know what has gotten into him or her. They've never acted like that before." The truth is the parents never had the child they just thought they did. And, they had lost the battle a long time before the teen years. When you look at teens who are rebeling, while they may(?) love their parents they do not respect them or their advice. That loss of respect occurred years ago.
Parents should remember their children are little people. Sometimes parents get lost in parenthood. Parents, at the very least, should treat their children as friends. Sometimes when a child forgets to do something parents act as if it is the end of the world but if a friend had forgotten the same thing they would say "no problem" or give a friendly reminder. One of the hurdles to be conquered with "youth" is they are no more interested in activities such as school, church etc than their parents are interested.
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